I’ve been wanting to write more about the patriarchy because I get questions about it. It’s good that we’re curious about it. Curiosity leads to looking deeper.
As I pay attention to my emotional responses while I read about it, I notice my energy draining away. For that reason, it feels more valuable to focus mostly on what comes after the patriarchy.
Before that though, I want to outline what I think patriarchy is so we can see it.
No, it’s not a word that is interchangeable with the word men.
Patriarchy has no gender. Bell Hooks
Yes, it is a word that’s very emotionally charged in the era of #metoo and #timesup.
But I don’t believe the answer is to get angry and push back against it. While anger can stir action, I don’t want to be only angry. Constant anger is exhausting. I want to expand, become more of who I am, be more alive to my purpose.
Before we can talk about what comes after the patriarchy, let’s look honestly at what it is.
What Does the Patriarchy Look Like?
What are the characteristics of this way that’s existed in our culture forever?
First, it’s structured as a hierarchy where power is not shared. Power belongs to a few, and is used to dominate and override. The lower you are in the hierarchy, the less power you have. Power is maintained by acquiring and holding the reins on money, resources and decision making. Historically, this has meant white men.
Existing in this domain, you might find yourself in survival mode where life is a matter of just getting through the day. To survive you must adapt to the rules of your external world as best you can while all the time feeling powerless.
In this domain, you react – or overreact – to external stimuli. You push back against what you see that you don’t like. If you follow the Twitterverse you have first hand experience of this. But this response leads to divisiveness, and is one of the main ways of maintaining the status quo where power is in the hands of a few.
It’s one of life’s ironies that in pushing against something, we willingly hand over the very weapons that can be used to keep us separate from each other.
Though there are many who live in this domain, it’s not very attractive, is it?
Something Beckons You and You Must Answer
The first sign that something else is trying to emerge in you is usually a challenging experience. The signal will be unmistakable – a relationship ending, an illness, an unexpected loss in your career, a financial downturn.
You’re tempted to say no to what’s trying to emerge through disruption. The status quo is familiar and while it’s perhaps not completely comfortable, it’s more comfortable than the unknown.
But when you’ve struggled enough, when you’re exhausted enough, when you’re in enough pain, there’s a moment when something happens and you say yes.
That moment is characterized by a recognition that staying where you are is more fearful than the unknown that lies ahead. It’s simply not possible to continue to live the way you’ve been living.
You know it. You feel it.
That’s when you step courageously unto the bridge that leads from the familiar to the unknown territory. You can’t see to the other side of the bridge, but you have to go anyway. You are afraid you might end up alone, but you have to go anyway. Though you may have to spend some time in transition, there’s no way back because the moment you stepped on to the bridge the life behind you disappeared.
You can’t un-know what you know. You can’t undo your yes.
But don’t worry, you’ve made the right choice. Watch for the signs.
Welcome to What Comes After the Patriarchy
By stepping on to the bridge you’ve said no to trying to force anything in your external world, and yes to going within to uncover a new source of power. It’s always been there, but now you can sense it.
That’s what comes after the patriarchy – a spiritual awakening where your internal compass and spiritual connection forge the only power that has meaning. Power brokers who live in the old domain are no longer even relevant to you.
Though it seems like what we see in the news is the real world, there is a surprise in store for you when you leave that world behind.
In your new place, many new friends are waiting to welcome you. Contrary to your fear of being alone, you find kindred spirits in abundance.
You find your tribe of unconventional thinkers, spiritual warriors and lovers of life’s mysteries.
Rather than surviving and reacting, you are thrilled to find that you are responding and creating. It’s exciting, and you are full of life and enthusiasm as your actions flow from the way you want to feel. Trusting in the new source of power, you discover the difference between pushing back and taking a stand for love.
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You are in a new domain, and yet it feels like coming home.
Guess What? It’s the Same World, Different Vibration
We may all live here on planet earth but the worlds we inhabit are very different. We can inhabit the patriarchal world of separateness, scarcity and limitation.
Or we can live in a new domain where power is divine, and curiosity, compassion, creativity and community are more highly valued than false power or stuff.
You will experience bridges to new domains many times in your lifetime but they will become less and less arduous. It’s fun to discover transformation is always on the menu. The day may even come when you see another bridge opening up in front of you and say, “How exciting, I’m transforming again!”
Having a touchstone will guide you through each time. Your touchstone can be as simple as these three steps:
- Create a radical and sustaining vision for your life.
- Find a away to maintain a high frequency where the old energies are not a match for who you are.
- Take inspired action when guided.
As a society, we’re on a bridge together. Each person who steps on the bridge to personal transformation is leading us all to what comes after the patriarchy, a world where love reigns.
When more of us choose to live this way, the patriarchy will slowly die. This is how we create a world where all life is sacred. We change the world one person at a time, one step at a time, one transformational journey at a time.
What are your thoughts about what comes after the patriarchy? Please share in the comments below.