The third component of communicating powerfully is storytelling. Storytelling is the passport to enchantment.
Women in particular have important stories and wisdom to share about emerging feminine power.
Learning the art of telling stories will help you in these three ways.
- Stories told well are mesmerizing for your audience – whether it’s one person or many.
- They let you focus on something you’re an expert in – your own life.
- You can make insightful and emotional connections with others.
What are the stories of your life? Some of the events in your life are so simple yet have such deep meaning at their heart.
Unfortunately not all stories are fun to listen to. Without knowing how to craft your story, you could end up with a litany of complaints and worst case scenarios, or a narrative that goes nowhere.
Do you know anyone who tells one negative story after another and makes you want to scream or throw things in frustration?
Storytelling Done Right Transforms
There’s nothing wrong with telling a story about a problem or challenge in your life. Those stories are some of the best but often there is one key ingredient missing.
Your listener wants more than a recital of facts. They want to hear about what happened as a result of your challenge and how you came out on the other side.
They want to see your transformation.
Your insights about your life experiences help you to become a more expanded version of yourself. When you share a story, not as a victim, but from a place of honesty, openness and vulnerability, it strengthens you, and it strengthens the connection you forge with your listeners.
You have many gold nuggets in your own experience that can become the transformation at the heart of your storytelling – one that invites insights or melt hearts or inspires action in your listeners.
By sharing openly about your own challenges and how you overcame them, you can introduce them to new possibilities about themselves.
Aside from the sheer entertainment, the highest compliment you can be paid is someone telling you they’ve had an insight into their own life through one of your stories.
“I felt you were talking right to me.”
What a thrill it is to have someone say those words.
A Simple Storytelling Exercise
Some of the events in your life are so simple yet have a much deeper meaning at their heart. With storytelling done well, a deeper understanding on the part of both the storyteller and the listener is the result.
Here’s an example of a writing exercise about something as simple as buying flowers.
Magic in a Pin
I bought tulips yesterday. Buying flowers for myself has always made me feel happy. And as Judy Dench says in the movie Room With a View, tulips are tempestuous.
And flamboyant and sassy.
Except that as soon as you get them home and put them in water, they flop over. No standing at attention in the centre, just flowers drooping around the outside of the vase. But even knowing that would happen, I bought them anyway, prepared for the troops to retreat.
When a friend dropped by she looked at my tulips, a couple of which were already drooping and said, “I know how to fix that!”
“Really? Do tell,” I said.
And she showed me.
So now I’m going to share the secret for how to make your tulips stand at attention. Take a straight pin, and poke a tiny hole through the stem just below each bloom.
It’s nothing less than magic. They stand up and stay standing up. Even the ones that started to droop last night are perky today.
Okay, it’s not magic. It’s simply that the little hole prevents excess water from going to the blooms and weighing them down.
Looking at my perky tulips got me thinking….
What in my life is weighing me down? Where would a little pinprick make me stand taller? Where am I too much in my head, not enough in my heart?
Too much drooping, not enough standing tall?
Too much flopping and giving in, not enough living my potential?
Storytelling and the Connection to Every Day Life
Try the exercise yourself with something simple that happens in everyday life. You could be cooking or grocery shopping or painting or chopping wood.
I can guarantee you there’s a transformational story within those simple activities.
You can start with something simple or you can make the art of storytelling a more important focus in your life. Ready for something more complex?
Download a free storytelling template on this page.