Being fierce matters.
Why? Because we can no longer afford a world where women aren’t fierce about being on purpose, about establishing a moral code, about defending this planet we live on.
We’ve lived too long in a world where profit comes before planet; where “don’t take it personally, it’s just business” is just an excuse for bad behaviour; where many do everything possible to distance themselves from pain; where we stay quiet instead of speaking up because we’re afraid of backlash.
Fierce is a word that puts a lot of women off. They equate it with being warrior-like, with a lion roaring loudly as it chases its prey, with someone who doesn’t care about kindness or compassion.
And yes, it can be those things.
But when it’s half of an equation and the other half of the equation is love, being fierce transforms us.
I don’t expect that everyone will agree with these reasons why being fierce matters. But watch and see which ones resonate, and even if it’s only one that will be enough.
Being Fierce Means Being Present
What’s in your past that’s keeping you from living in this moment right now? What fears do you have about the future that prevent you from being present to what’s happening right now?
Presence carries with it the ability to create. If you’ve ever experienced a burst of creative energy where you lost all sense of time, you were experiencing being present.
So much can keep us locked into the past or the future. It could be doing work that isn’t fulfilling but instead is safe. Perhaps you’re locked into requiring approval or needing to be perfect. It could be past trauma or fear of losing an important relationship.
Whatever it is, a practice of meditation slows down the rush of thought that prevents us from being present. In meditation, you can become the observer of your thought without judging or changing them.
Be Fierce By Staying the Course
Staying the course doesn’t mean you go step by step in a straight line without encountering barriers on your path. In fact it’s the opposite.
Staying the course means you look at everything that happens – easy and challenging – as part of your journey.
Imagine hitting a wall. It looks like you’re stuck with no way through. Staying the course means you hang around long enough to discover it’s actually a door into another level of being.
The path is not necessarily easy, but it is full of grace.
Being Fierce Means Being Visible
Every woman has experienced impostor syndrome. “What if they find out I’m not really who they think I am?”
To uncover fear about being visible in this world requires radical honesty about how much and in what part of our lives we lean towards hiding. Visibility exposes us to the possibility of others tearing us down. (Even though they are only doing that because they’re in pain themselves.)
But hiding the things we don’t like is a trap. By necessity, we also keep the qualities we do like under wraps as well, leaving us living a less than authentic life.
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Know that the fear about being visible peels off in layers in order to maintain a modicum of equilibrium. The journey of becoming more visible is ongoing.
There is no real destination. Instead we develop an awareness so we can say, “Hello fear, are you back again? Let’s dance.”
The Power in Having a True North
Having a true north gives you power and choice. It acts as a guide whenever you meet an obstacle.
It means accessing spiritual tools such as prayer, meditation, writing in a journal, doing service for others.
It means moving away from being mind driven, which feels like tiptoeing through a minefield, into living a spiritually driven life and recognizing that you can call on Divine Order for assistance.
A Loving Heart is the Balance
When you decide to shine your light no matter what, you will meet trolls. There will always be those who want to stop you, to make you afraid, to limit you in some way. They fear the brilliance of your light. You remind them of something they think is lacking in them. (It isn’t, they only think so.)
But most of these people are so afraid themselves they blame others for how they feel. They are the ultimate victims.
There is a part of you, an eternal part – call it your soul – that is never hurt or harmed by those who lash out because they are themselves wounded.
Having an open loving heart is like a suit of invisible armour, shielding you from harm.
Some Questions and Steps To Take
Use these questions and steps to build on the ideas.
Where in your life do you want to become more fierce than you are currently?
Where in your body do you hold on to old pain or trauma that might keep you from being fierce?
Where in your life are you the most creative and imaginative?
Do you ever feel like you are totally on purpose? What does that feel like?
What is one step you can take today to move you past some barrier you’ve been experiencing?
Write regularly in a journal.
Go for a walk often and swing your arms with a lot of energy.
Sing or make vocal sound. Vary the volume and pitch and vowel sounds.
Choose a simple practice (such as a gratitude box) and repeat the action every day for thirty days.
Meditate and vision about your soul purpose.
Most of all, celebrate knowing that everything you need to be fierce is already within you!